Some UCC churches stop marrying couples
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Some churches have decided that until same-sex partners can have a civil wedding ceremony in the church, they will not hold any at all. It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight, you can't get legally married at Lyndale United Church of Christ.Regardless of your opinion on gay marriage, this is a dumb tactic. While I respect the autonomy of local church ministers in the UCC to discern this for themselves how they can best serve their parishoners, this strategy deserves some scrutiny. It's also kind of cheap.
The small, liberal church in south Minneapolis was the first of several Twin Cities congregations last year to stop performing civil marriage ceremonies as long as same-sex marriage is illegal. These churches, and a handful of others around the country that took the same step, will still hold a religious ceremony to bless the unions of straight and gay couples -- but straight couples must go separately to a judge or justice of the peace for the marriage license.
"If you feel that gay and lesbian people are loved and credited by God, then how can we continue to discriminate against our brothers and sisters?" asked Rev. Don Portwood, the reserved Nebraska native who's been lead pastor at the 120-member Lyndale United Church of Christ for 27 years.
For starters, this is about a state law, not church policy. Instead of working through the legislative process or petitioning lawmakers to make changes to the law, the strategy is to deprive their own church of a privledge that clergy have had for a very long time. Functionally, it's not that strong of a statement since the impact doesn't reach beyond the local church itself which is probably supportive of gay marriage already.
For all practical purposes within the UCC, this is a political and legislative issue and not a theological issue since local UCC churches have the freedom to be "open and affirming" already.
It's also a cheap tactic since the consequence of their actions will not be a burden carried by clergy themselves, it will be carried by their parishoners.
Let's apply this tactic to other political issues that are frquently mentioned in the UCC. Take healthcare - how many clergy would be so bold as to renounce their health care coverage until every child is covered? Homelessness? How many ministers would throw themselves out of their parsonages until everyone in their city had a roof over their heads?
I don't think many clergy would go this far to make a political statement if they had to carry such a significant burden themselves... which why this tactic just seems cheap.
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We operate in this country with a separation of church and state -except on this one particular issue, where ministers are called upon to act as an agent of the state by signing a legally recognized document that confers legally recognized privileges. Why should I (as a minister) act as an agent of the state? Where was that in my ordination vows?
This congregation is doing its part to enact a strategy recommended by such flaming liberals as Jim Wallis and Tony Campolo -take the church out of the state marriage business altogether. Let the state offer civil unions that are equally open to all persons on the basis of 14th amendment protections and let houses of worship bless (or not bless) whichever unions they wish according to their own theology.
And I might add that your critique assumes the pastor of the church made a unilateral decision to enact this policy. I doubt that is the case. More likely, the congregation, after a process of study and discernment, elected to surrender certain legal benefits (i.e., the minister's power to legally marry)out of a sense of solidarity with their LGBT sisters and brothers.
And yet, for some reason, that bothers you. Why am I not surprised?
A similar comment was just made on the UCCtruths message board as far as removing the church from a civil procedure. Philosophically, I agree with that and don't have a problem with that at all. In fact, I made that same suggestion on the UCC.org message board years ago and it was roundly rejected by openly gay members of the message board becuase, for them, it was further de-legitimizing a right for them within our churches.
Lets be honest... in this specific case, church/state concerns didn't drive the church to do this - reaction to the gay marriage debate did.
The bottom line is that the kind of statement doesn't really do anything - it's not going to change any laws and it's not going to change any minds becuase it's impact is self contained within a church that already support gay marriage. They are only punishing themselves.
This decision though "self-contained" within one particular congregation as you state could very well spread elsewhere throughout that State (or the country). Let's say that it spread only to other UCC churches, or to UCC and other mainline churches, what if it spread to just 100 churches in that region? If it did spread it would indeed limit people's choices for where they might have their marriage blessed and therby bring to the fore the issue of equality in civil marriage.
If every movement for change viewed taking a stand the way you seem to do (i.e. pointless because it's one church, one person, one issue-won't change a thing, their only punishing themselves) then I suppose, abolition, suffrage, and the American revolution to name just a few would never have occurred.
It is ridiculous to assume that one person or one group of people cannot begin to make a change through their solo stand on any issue...
Even if you had a thousand churches participate, all it would touch are those thousand churches who already support gay marriage - it would have no impact at all on society's view on marriage. It is one of those 'pat yourself on the back for doing nothing' statements that Protestants are famous for. Look at my post on the UCC's Sudan tent thing recently - what a waste of time.
And just so we are clear... My comments aren't pro or anti gay marriage - I think local UCC churches should be free to decide for themselves (as our polity dictates) whether or not they will perform gay marriages, celebrations, etc.
I understand your point about other movements that started off small and grew... but it doesn't fit in this scenario. In contrast to MLK's March on Washington, this is the equivelent of marching in circles in your church parking lot.
They surely didn't change the minds of the Southern leaders however(most of whom left their political party because it endorsed as a whole Johnsons civil right's program and produced a bill in favor of it) They fought de-segregation even after it was passed on the federal level...
But they did however change the LAW...and the minds of the lawmakers. Isn't that the point here? Changing what some veiw as discriminatory law? Your comment that the example that church is setting isn't or couldn't be compared with the civil rights movemnet or any other social change movement is incorrect.
Oh yea and unless I am mistaken it was mainline Protestant denomiations (ABCUSA & UCC especially)) and their clergy who spearheaded and brought major momentum to that movement.
"Do you think that MLK changed minds on the issue of civil rights?"
Huh? I don't know who's posts you are reading, but you are totally missing the point. MLK didn't march in a church parking lot, he marched on Washington. Closing off marriage ceremonies in your own church is akin to marching in your own parking lot - Thats why it's a meaningless event.
Actions (or inactions!) speak louder than words. Good for them!
Check out the "whites only" bathroom analogy above. Why should a church embrace an optional legal practice that runs contrary to its theology?